Second opinion, is to cancel wudlu touch, accompanied by orgasm or not. Opinions held by this sect and Syafi'i Dzahiriy.
Strong opinions (rajih) is the first opinion, which said that the touch of men and women do not cancel wudlu if not accompanied by a sense orgasm, but if accompanied by orgasm wudlu then canceled. This is the basis of Rasulullah SAW had kissed one of his wife and then make a salad without first wudlu (Sunan Abi Dawud -178 to the Chapter "Wudlu min al-Qublah" and Sunan Nasai p. 1. 104).
Menghalalkan God's opinion that the couple is to brush properly. Even more than that, such as smell and touch the body of any Permitted. But it does not mean it does not cancel wudlu?
We also clean and we can hold the genitalia, but why wudlu be canceled because the genitalia are holding? So, it does not mean anything of that we can not directly touch the wudlu cancel.